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The Most Important Step

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This is the most important step. 

Based on the previous post, we uncovered the importance of having our values present on our calendar.

Apparently, this is supposed to make it easier to get all the things done.

If it really is true that we are more productive when the things we are asking ourselves to do are aligned with our values, then why is it so hard to take action?

Let’s have a conversation about this.

I know you value cleanliness. I know you want to have a clean house and you already know how to create that.

But I also know how frustrating it is to feel like all you do is clean and there’s nothing to show for it.

When this happens, it doesn’t matter how much you value cleanliness, if you’re telling yourself it’s not worth it, you’re not going to do it.

Or, if you do, you’ll take longer to get started or maybe you won’t do as good of a job, and then you won’t have time left for you.

This is why it’s so important to know what’s going on in your mind.

The most important step you will learn when you work with me is how to know what your mindset is.


What is your mind set on?

What is your mind set on when it comes to cleaning?

When it comes to working out?

When it comes to having your own time?


It does not matter how much you have going on in your life.

What your mind is set on is what you will create.

You could have a million things going on between the kids, the house, the schedules, taking care of you, keeping up with friends, your husband, and whatever else.

But if your mind is set on having a clean house, the house will be clean.

If your mind is set on moving your body, you will workout.

If your mind is set on being creative, you will make time for you.


So when you list out your values, you also want to list out your current mindset regarding those values.

I’m not talking about what you WISH your mindset was.

We need to uncover what you’re currently thinking about that area of your life.

It’s going to SEEM out of your control, just how things are, or that you have to deal with it.

But this is really just a story you have that’s creating that mindset. 

It’s also known as a Belief System. (BS) And trust me, I will call you on your BS because it will disguise itself as truth, but it only feels true because you’ve been thinking and believing that story for so long.


So here’s your homework for today:

For each of your top 5 values, write out what your current mindset is.

The more detailed you are, the more transformation you will have.

If one of your values is your home, spend a good 20 minutes journaling about what you think about your home. What you think about the cleaning you do for your home. What you think other people think about your home. What you think about the spaces you have within your home.

All of this is going to feel like truth, and that’s okay.

But just remember that this is YOUR story.

Because somebody somewhere is praying and dreaming that someday they could have what you have.

What do you think THEY are thinking about your home?

The point of this exercise is to give you awareness. Perspective.

It doesn’t mean things won’t change at home or that you just need to be more thankful or appreciative.

We’re supposed to want more than we have.

Our brain is designed this way to help us survive.

Think about it. Back in the day, if we didn’t have more than we needed in the moment, we wouldn’t survive the winter.

This is just your primitive brain at work. It’s doing its job very well.

What I want to do is help you start using your prefrontal cortex more often.

I want to help you think on purpose, plan ahead, and decide intentionally what you want your life to be like.

But if we never uncover your current mindset, we won’t know how to reprogram your brain.


So please do this work today. This is the most important step. If you don’t manage your mind, you won’t be able to create the life you wish you had.

If you feel like you are trying to live by your values but it’s so hard to take action, it’s because of the story you have that’s disguising as truth.

This is why we get stuck.

When we’re telling ourselves what we think is true, we forget there’s another option.


So uncover what your mind is set on.

Start being onto your brain.

You don’t even have to come up with a new story.

If you want to start doing what you said you would do and live according to what you value, as soon as you really see why you’re not, that awareness will create a choice for you.

Then, all you have to do is make a decision. You can either keep repeating the past or create a better future.

With enough awareness, the choice will be easy.

Doing the homework will make it easier, and if you want additional support, I’m here for you. You can click here and we’ll do this work together.


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