Winter Date Ideas

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Here is a list of my winter date ideas for those of you who, like me, don't always like going out to eat. Most of these ideas make the cold weather feel cozy (some can continue into spring). I hope this gives you an incentive to try something a little different next time you go on a date! Because, we need to date EVERY WEEK.

We are a team, and we need to make time to nurture our team. It's like any other team. We are the coaches. Our family is our team. We are all on the same side, and dating gives us the opportunity to talk about things that need to be talked about. Dating gives us time to be together without our kids so that we can grow our relationship + actually want to be around our kids.

If the only thing you do is get groceries together, then stop for a coffee on the way home. It is so important that you connect with each other. We are so very fourtunate. Go date.

1. Go for a winter stroll through a park.

This is for those warmer winter days when it's actually above freezing. If there is fresh snow, it will put you in a cozy mood. You would totally do this as a teenager, so keep it up, no matter how long you've been together.

2. Go out for coffee, tea, or hot cocoa, and sit by a cozy fire.

If it is freezing outside and going for a walk doesn't sound fun, then get a hot drink and find a fireplace (or at least an electric blanket). Try out a new coffee shop or pick a close one and become regulars.

3. Go to the mall to just walk around.

It's fun to go to the mall with the intention to just walk around and look at stuff. And smile at people. I love it when people smile at me. The cool thing about intentionally not buying anything is that it makes looking at everything fun. 

4. Go to a thrift store and see who can find the coolest thing.

We enjoy a good thrift store, and this puts an interesting spin on a date. Try it out sometime. Make it the date and have fun. Be creative!

5. Stay home and cook a dinner together.

If you can, bring your kids to the sitter, instead of having the sitter come to you. Then return home and cook a dinner together and have a special evening. Maybe you don't feel like cooking, order a pizza for the two of you, and enjoy it together. Have good conversations without interruptions and noisy chatter.

6. Be local tourists and visit museums.

I really like going to museums. We haven't done this in a while, but now that it is so cold outside, we will do it again. The cool thing about this is that we always have good conversations because we talk about what we are looking at.

7. Go ice skating sans kids.

Honestly, I haven't had skates on the whole time we've been married (11 years). But, doesn't this sound romantic? We might have to try this. We could bring a thermos of something hot to sip. 

8. Try a new restaurant.

I know. I said these ideas were different from just going out to eat. But, what if you go somewhere new, somewhere you wouldn't normally go? If you live near a big city, then this would be something to try. There are so many ethnic places with different food combinations that I would never dream of making. What if you just went for the experience and to have fun rather than to 'eat out'. Besides, if it's really nasty, you can always grab a burger on the way home. Either way, you would have some great conversations to tell about that date!

9. Go on a double date.

We totally need to do this more often. Double dating can make you see each other with fresh eyes. Everything would be more interesting, more conversational. The cool thing about double dating is that you could share the same sitter.

10. Plan your next weekend get-away.

Planning your next weekend get-away during a meal together would make eating out more interesting. Even if you don't follow through with the get-away. If you were going to have one, where would you go? What would you do? How much time would you want to take? You could go far out and talk about what sounds amazing, and you could keep it realistically in your budget. Remember weekend get-away's can be in your same state. Our first one was only 35 minutes away and oh-so-enjoyable.

11. Host an adults only dinner with two more couples

I think the idea of an intimate dinner with only a few friends sounds nice. If it sounds like too much work, try a themed potluck version. Everyone could share the same sitter again.

12. Write love letters to be opened in one year, 5 years...

Is this weird? I am not a love-letter type of person, but I love planning. Maybe just talk about how you want to be as a couple in one year. I was just thinking about what my dreams were for last year. Sometimes we forget what we want and just live day in and day out. I'm trying to be more mindful in this. Writing it down, albeit a love letter or just journaling, would help me remember to stay on top of who I want to be in our relationship.

Whatever you do, keep dating

This is a nice list to help you get the ideas rolling! You can probably take any of these and add a theme to it to make them more interesting. Also, you don't really even have to go anywhere to connect. Set the intention to connect daily with your spouse. There are so many distractions around us today. It's so nice when we can have real conversations and be present with each other.

Have fun dating this winter. If you do one of these ideas every week, that will get you to March. Before we know it spring will be here! YAY!