Why I Decided to Work with Moms Who Suffer From Anxiety
Hey Friends! If you've been peeking around the site you will have noticed a significant narrowing of my niche. I've gone from the general topic of personal development, all the way down to helping moms overcome their anxiety. I wanted to take a moment today to tell you exactly why I decided to do this.
Anxiety is something I used to suffer from on a daily basis. I hated leaving the house. Every time I brought the kids somewhere I wouldn't be able to relax until we had been home for about four days and no one was sick. I was always worried about being sick. I used obscene amounts of cleaning products and antibacterial gels. I was completely out of control. I thought anxiety was just something I had to learn to live with.
What I didn't know is that I was reacting to my anxiety. I wasn't allowing myself to feel my emotion. Instead, I was reacting to it, doing ANYTHING I could to avoid it. Now at first, it seems like it would be a good thing to want to avoid such a negative emotion. But I want you to really think about this.
If you spend all your time trying to avoid feeling anxiety, how does that feel? To me, it feels crazy. Like literally. I was constantly worried someone would get sick so I was always cleaning, always eliminating every germ I could. I turned down so many invitations. I was scared to go anywhere.
I know anxiety can come in many different ways, but the one that affected me the most was sickness. My therapist said I had emetophobia, which is the fear of throwing up. I was like, yes, that is so true! He had me do what they call exposure therapy, which does work, but it wasn't until I started managing my mind that I really learned how to feel my anxiety so I could get beyond it.
Exposure therapy for me looked like my therapist asking me to get groceries without using hand sanitizer or cleaning my grocery cart with those little wipes and then talking about that experience at our next appointment. I was supposed to expose myself to germs more and find that I was actually still healthy. But if I had sick kids, I couldn't take care of them. My husband had to do that and I had to either go to bed because I was having an anxiety attack or I would be cleaning the house like a crazy lady. So the therapy worked until I would have an attack.
And that brings me back to avoiding feeling the anxiety. And I have to say that I am not a therapist and I don't claim to know all there is to know about anxiety. I just know my personal experience and how debilitating it made my life. Anyway, when you avoid feeling anxious, it doesn't feel good. You're trying so hard to prevent something bad from happening.
The dumb thing is that we don't even know if the 'bad' thing will even happen. And that's the power of the brain. It's designed to look for the worst. It wants us to stay in the cave and be safe. The world is a dangerous place, my friends!
What I want to suggest is that instead of avoiding the anxiety, you move towards it. You allow it. You accept it. There is this big misconception that if we allow ourselves to feel an emotion that we will never stop feeling it. The opposite is true.
If we sit and allow the feeling to come, we can experience it for what it is, and we can let it move through us, and we can be free. Most of the time this takes less time than the time we spend trying to avoid the feeling.
If you suffer from anxiety, I know how scary it sounds to allow the feeling. But here's the thing. If you allow yourself to feel anxiety, what does it feel like? What is the vibration in your body?
When you start to describe this feeling be careful to not explain your reaction to the anxiety. For me, I feel it in my gut. I feel sick, I feel shaky, I feel cold. I feel like I can't breathe and I need some air. My ears ring. My hands are all tingly.
When you can allow yourself to really feel the emotion, you become the watcher, and it's easier to experience. In the beginning you want to write down what you're experiencing. It helps so much.
And that is how you allow it. How you feel it.
I decided to work with moms who suffer from anxiety because it is something I know so well. I have been at the bottom, and now I feel like I'm at the top. I want to help other moms learn how to be emotionally strong so they can live their lives with enjoyment, instead of holding back, constantly worrying about this or that and suffering anxiety attacks.
When I decided to start a business, this niche was far from my mind. I wanted to really get into photography. I love photography! Or maybe design. I wanted to have a shop that sold cute and fun things for moms. But every time I tried to get the business going, I got stuck. I hit a wall. It wasn't working out the way I wanted it to.
I even joined classes for photography, to help my build my business. And it still didn't happen.
Then one day I was visiting at a friends house and I overheard a couple moms talking about anxiety and sickness. I thought, 'Wow, I'm so glad I don't feel like that anymore.' And then I promise I heard God tell me that I need to help moms like them. I knew immediately that this was true. And also immediately, I felt anger.
I wanted to do something fun! Photography sounded so fun! But the more I went inward, I knew that my business would never mean anything to me if I didn't find a way to talk about what I went through and teach others how to overcome their own anxiety.
It took me a long time to find joy in this. As in almost a year. I still kept trying to make something else work out, and every time, I would think back to that day. I knew in my heart what I needed to do.
As I'm moving forward with this, it's been so interesting and fun for me. Things are falling into place and I feel confident with where it's going.
So, am I really only working with moms who suffer from anxiety? No. If you have a specific problem you want to talk about, I would love to chat with you. You can always feel free to sign up for a free mini session and I we will figure out if my program will be a good fit for you.
I really believe I can help you. Give your life something new, and get ready to live from a whole new perspective.
You totally deserve it.