Why Being Selfish is a Good Thing

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We're taught that being selfish is a bad thing. But if we don't take care of ourselves, we don't feel like taking care of anyone else. I think that being selfish is a good thing. I think you need to be selfish, that it's important. Here are some tips on why self care is essential and why being selfish is actually a selfless act. It's you taking care of yourself, creating your own happiness, and happiness is the greatest gift you can give.

decide

You have to take a good look at your life and decide what it is that makes you be your best self. What is it that makes you feel on top of the world? What makes you want to show up for others? Maybe it's sleep. Maybe it's your workout. Maybe it's being alone. Figure out what you need, and decide that it's non-negotiable.

plan

Once you decide what you need, you have to create a plan so you can have it. What needs to happen for you to achieve this? When is the best time to do this? Figure it out, and then get it on your calendar. Start a routine habit so it's always present in your life. You have to make it happen for you .

commit

You've decided what you need to be your best self, you have a plan in place to make it happen, now you need to commit to making it happen. This means that you don't brush off yourself and do something else instead. You need to always put your best interests first. Of course it's selfish. That's the point, remember? 

You have to know how important you are. You have a lot of responsibilities, and the more you can honor yourself and take care of yourself, the easier it is to show up and fulfill those responsibilities. 

When you do this you will increase your self-confidence. You will believe in yourself more. You will show up for others as who you really are, and this can help you to create even more friends. People will come to understand your boundaries and know what they can expect of you because you always deliver, you always follow through. 

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imagine your life

This is possible for you. Only you can make it happen. You are so important and you need to be selfish. It's like that saying, "You can't pour from an empty cup." Take care of yourself.

Think about what your life would be like if you were the most important thing to you. What if it was easy to show up as a mom and do things for your kids and with your kids because you have already taken care of yourself? Wouldn't that be amazing?

This is totally available to you. All you need to do is to plan on being selfish, and love yourself for it.

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