People Can't Trigger You
Did you know that people can’t trigger you? I hear people say this all the time. ‘I just don’t like to be around her. She triggers me.’
Have you ever thought this?
I used to believe this was true. I thought there were ‘bad’ people out there. Mean people. But people can’t trigger you, and today I’lm going to give you 3 tips for when you feel ‘triggered.’
what does it mean when someone triggers you?
This is different for everyone, so this is a place where you have to examine yourself. How do you feel when you think someone triggers you?
Maybe you feel annoyed. Maybe you feel angry. Resentment.
Notice how you feel.
Now, remember where our feelings come from. Our feelings come from our thoughts. So when you feel angry because someone triggers you, your feeling doesn’t come from that person. Your feeling comes from what you think about that person.
So that person does something, and you have a thought about it, and then you feel a certain way because of your thought, not because of the other person.
This is so mind blowing.
So, how can you ‘fix’ this?
The first thing to do is to take ownership. You have to know that it’s your thoughts causing your feeling and not them.
The second thing to do is to decide how you want to feel about that person. The way you are feeling right now is most likely not a good feeling. If you could choose any feeling in the world, how would you want to feel? Is it serving you?
The third thing to do is to find neutral ground. You can do this by changing your thought. Chances are, you’re not going to be able to go from feeling triggered about someone to loving them. Maybe you can feel compassion or understanding.
Remember, this doesn’t mean that you condone what they do.
This means you get to decide how you want to feel because only you can create your feelings.
This can be a difficult concept to grasp, but if you can embrace it, it can change your life. When you feel triggered you are the one experiencing those feelings, not the other person.
The more you manage your mind, the easier it is to find the neutral thoughts that can grow into love.
I’m not saying you need to always feel happy, but I want you to know that you are ALWAYS in charge of how you feel.