My Money Ah-Ha
I just had a massive shift in my money awareness.
Okay. So, my Master Coach, Brooke Castillo, has this 10 year goal of making $100M in one year.
I thought to myself, “Why does she have such a huge goal? It’s not even going to make her a better person.”
And then I was like, WAIT A MINUTE. Does that mean I think the only reason to make money is because then I will be a better person?
Because intellectually, I know that isn’t true. Our self worth doesn’t come from how much money we have. Our self worth comes from existing. It is whole and complete. We can’t get more of it, we can’t take any of it away.
So why did I have this thought about money?
It’s always good to ask yourself why. Why do I think this about money? What else do I think about money?
I felt like I was up against a brick wall. Nothing was coming to me. So I went to the math.
Math is just looking at answers without the drama.
We know that our thoughts ultimately create our results. So, if I look at the current money results I have in my life, I can figure out what I’m thinking that’s creating that result.
I have thoughts like, there isn’t enough. We have to make it last. If Sky would quit working so much overtime, I could make some of the money.
S C R E E C H !
That last thought made me stop. If I think Sky has to quit working so I can make some money, I must be believing that we have a finite amount of money.
And then I saw it in my mind. There was our money bucket and every month I had to make it last. Every month I was spending from scarcity and hoping it would last and feeling anxious and worried and then relieved when it filled back up again.
I had no idea I was thinking about money like this.
Whenever this happens, instead of going and changing it right away, you want to really understand what is going on.
So I asked why. Why do I think we only have a finite amount of money?
And then I saw another picture in my mind.
As a kid growing up, when my dad would be out of work, my mom would work. Then dad would be back to work and my mom would work less or quit.
It was like we always had the same amount of money. It was never enough. We had to make it last. It would run out.
This experience created my money belief.
Now, I want you to understand something here. Money is neutral. Money is neither good nor bad. So having a little money doesn’t mean it was bad or wrong or that it needed to change.
What was bad was my feeling around it.
What was bad was what I was making the amount of money we had mean.
So, now we’re going to jump to yesterday, and an activity I was doing with my coach.
One of the things she has us do is to imagine that someone just gave you $1M. The taxes are already paid. You just get to spend it.
So, I did this. I spent $1M on paper. It was actually quite challenging.
And then she asks if we would tell anybody that we got this $1M and why or why not.
My answer was no, and I’ll tell you why.
As I was spending the money, I thought it would be so fun to pay off our parents’ homes and to give our siblings thousands of dollars.
But then I thought, “If I’m giving them money, does that mean I think they don’t have enough? That they will have a better life if they have this money?”
I know that money cannot make your life better, so I spent the money within my own family and business. But before I go on, I want you to get this too.
What makes life better? If we feel like our life is amazing, where does that feeling come from? If we feel secure, what makes us feel secure?
Our feelings ALWAYS come from our thoughts. The money is just there. It’s what you are thinking about the money that is causing your feeling.
So, I was like, “No, I wouldn’t tell anyone because it wouldn’t make a difference anyway.”
And then I had another ah-ha.
If that was true, if the money wouldn’t make a difference anyway, then I wouldn’t need the million dollars. Then I wouldn’t need anymore than I have right now.
B O O M .
All the sudden, I get it.
MONEY IS NEUTRAL.
The only reason to set a money goal is to see what happens. To prove anything really is possible. To prove that the model works. That the law of attraction works. To see who I become along the way.
Because for the last 38 years I have been believing that money is hard and that it will run out and there isn’t enough and I have to wait.
Wait for what?
I keep waiting to show up. I keep waiting for the money to be there so I can be who I really want to be. I keep waiting for the money to be there so I can have the business I want to have.
What if I just show up and create the value of the money and sit back and see what happens?
What if I just show up and be me and see what happens?
I am totally mind blown.
This is so amazing to me and I still don’t quite know what to think.
I feel like I’ve been brainwashed.
And you know what’s crazy?
No one EVER sat me down and said this is your bucket of money. Be careful! It’s going to run out!
I created those beliefs.
The best news is that I CAN CHANGE THEM.
I can change them not because I think my life will be better, but because I want to be an example of what is possible for a stay at home mom. And because I’m so curious.
What will my life be like when I believe money is limitless for me?
Okay. That’s all for today.
This is totally a bonus post as I’ve already put one out this week, but this is so fresh in my mind, I wanted to share it with you.
Have an AMAZING day!
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