Care for You This Summer

Summer is here and one question that I am hearing a lot of is, How do you find time to do things for yourself when you have to spend all your time cooking and cleaning and entertaining kids? My first answer is to show up for yourself + take care of yourself. It might seem frivolous at first, but I can tell you it has made the biggest change on my life.

I used to lay around all morning, waiting to see if it was going to be a good day. Was it worth showering for? Did I need to get dressed? Was I even going anywhere? I failed to see the point of getting dressed. I thought I would rather be comfortable. Besides, I thought my kids wouldn't notice anyway.

That sort of thinking is so negative. Where is the good? Now, I don't wait to see if it's going to be a bad day. I start the day by choosing to have a good day. Why I would do that to myself is beyond me. I guess I just wasn't aware that I could make it a good day instead of waiting to see how it would go. Waking up with so much negativity only attracted negative days. I started showing up for myself + taking care of myself. I started having WAY better days + feeling WAY better overall.

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To take care of yourself, show up

  1. choose happiness
  2. be ready for anything
  3. be more confident

The best way to take care of yourself is to show up for yourself. Happiness is a choice, and it's up to you to choose happiness. Choosing happiness doesn't mean that everyday is all 'rainbows + daisies'. Choosing happiness is being proactive. Choosing happiness is being responsible. It is your responsibility to be happy. Not all the time, but when you first wake in the morning, choose happiness. There will still be sadness and all those other emotions at the low end of the spectrum, but making the choice to choose happiness will bring you more happy days.

When you show up for yourself and you are being responsible for yourself, you will be ready for anything. That package being delivered? Go ahead and answer the door. Because you took the time to care for yourself, you can answer the door and feel good about it. Want to go out for a spontaneous lunch date? You can because you're ready.

Showing up gives you confidence. The more you take care of yourself, the more you like yourself. When you like yourself, you are willing to grow. You are willing to talk to people you might not normally talk to. You walk differently. You become approachable. You become attractive.

How you take care + show up for yourself will look different for each one of us. You have to go inward to see what you like, what you need. You are individual. Take care of your needs.

How to show up for yourself

  1. wake early
  2. get dressed
  3. discover what's fun for you + do it
  4. simplify your routines

You can show up for yourself by waking early. Wake early because you matter. Do not doubt this. If you didn't matter, you wouldn't be here. There is only one of you, so what you bring to this world can only come from you in the way you can give it. To find out what you can give you have to go inward. You have to find what you like + what you desire. Spend your time in the early mornings reflecting on how your life is currently going, and how you would like it to be in the future.

Also, get dressed. You can make yourself feel better just by getting dressed. It might seem like a small thing to do, but the benefits are amazing. Create a summer wardrobe for yourself so that you love everything that you put on. I like to rotate 5 weekday outfits and 4 Sunday outfits. Wear them for 3 months, and create a new one in the fall.

When you show up for yourself and you're waking early + getting dressed, you're going to want to go have some fun. Buy yourself a cute notebook and start writing down things that really make you happy. It could be something as small as sitting in the sunshine when the kids are busy or napping. Where do your thoughts go when you're sitting there? Notice them. If they're good thoughts, thank yourself for thinking them. If they're not good thoughts, ask yourself why you are choosing to think them, and start changing them. Pay attention to yourself and discover what it is that you really like. How can you get more of that?

When you simplify your routines, you will have more time to do those things that bring you happiness. When it comes to cleaning, what can you do to make it easier? How can you eliminate or delegate tasks? When it comes to cooking, how can you make it easier? What if you did cold dinners a couple times a week? Same with laundry. What if the kids wore the same outfit for a couple days? What can you do to make your life easier so you can have time for fun?

Good life happens when you show up

  1. you actually feel like getting up + getting dressed
  2. you feel like cooking + taking care of your family
  3. you feel happier, energized, confident, aligned

When you show up for yourself you feel better about yourself and about your life. When you're ready for the day it's easier to handle the unexpected things. You can do impromptu meet-ups with friends, or go shopping. You don't have to hide when the doorbell rings. You can take on whatever life brings, and it's going to bring more good things because when you show up for yourself you are getting on that good vibration.

It is easy to take care of yourself.

All you have to do is to show up.

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