Discipline For Success
Today I want to talk about discipline because when you start building your self-confidence and you start taking care of yourself when you haven’t been in the habit of taking care of yourself, your brain is going to want to tell you to not do it.
Your brain is going to say it doesn’t matter.
That it can wait.
You’ll do it tomorrow.
But what happens when tomorrow comes?
We still say no. It’s so much easier to do nothing. To stay home. To curl up on the sofa and scroll Instagram looking at what everybody else is doing instead.
So when you think about discipline, it sounds like it’s a bad thing at first. The reason we think this is because when we discipline our kids it’s usually because they are misbehaving.
But what does discipline do?
It teaches them how to be better. It teaches them how to have better behavior. And the reason we want better behavior is because we want them to succeed. We want them to do what’s right.
So we need to do this for ourselves also.
When we discipline ourselves so we show up better. We follow through.
Sometimes we don’t want to discipline ourselves because we feel like we’re not allowing ourselves to have what we want.
Sometimes what we want isn’t actually good for us. Sometimes we think we want it but when we look deeper into it, we don’t actually want it.
So when we discipline ourselves we actually have more freedom.
We have more freedom because we don’t have to rely on our self control or our will power.
It’s like deciding ahead of time.
So what does this look like?
Right now I have this goal of working with 8 women. But I’m still a stay-at-home mom. So I have to really discipline myself so I stay on track. I have to make sure I’m taking care of myself so I don’t hit burnout.
I have to make sure I’m being the best mom ever so my kids don’t think I’m working too much. I have to make sure I’m showing up for my spouse so that he always comes first no matter what.
So it becomes super important that I go to bed at a decent hour so I can wake up early and do my self care routine done and work a bit before the kids are up. I have to know what is going to make me want to get out of bed and I have to know what’s going to make me want to sleep in.
So when 5 o’clock rolls around I want to be able to get out of bed without having to rely on self control or will power.
I just get up.
There’s no pushing snooze.
I see discipline as rules that I set for my life. This is what I need to do in order to have the success I want.
Because otherwise, what happens. Five o’clock comes around and my alarm is going off and I hit snooze and pretty soon I’ve hit snooze 4 times and I drag myself out of bed and already I’m thinking negative thoughts.
I shouldn’t have hit snooze. I should be showered by now. I’m so lazy. Why can I not do what I said I was going to do?
You have to be careful here.
First of all, if these are your first thoughts of the day, the self loathing has to stop. There is no up side. All it does is create shame and you can be done with that.
Instead, tell yourself what you did do.
I’m out of bed now. I’m working out now. I’m showering.
Or try adding ‘And that’s okay.’ at the end of your thought.
I slept in and that’s okay. I hit snooze and that’s okay.
And the other thing is to notice that if you discipline yourself, all of this drama can be avoided.
So for me, discipline is almost just a choice.
I decided that it is important for me to get up at five, so that is what I need to do.
It’s like this is my limit.
We all limit ourselves in different ways, but the limit is not restricting. I really want you to see this as freedom.
When I get up and do my self care routine and my morning work routine I have so much more freedom throughout the rest of the day.
I’m not trying to work when I should be cleaning the house or spending time with my kids.
I’m not trying to shower when I should be fixing lunch.
I’m not getting annoyed at the kids interrupting me because my focus is on work and not them.
You have to know what your priorities are.
For me, my family will always come before my business. But I understand that in order for me to want to show up for them, I need to have my business because it’s something I LOVE doing. But if I let it come before my family and I don’t show up for them, my business time feels resentful and I don’t enjoy it.
If I knew today was my last day here, I would 100% spend it with my family and I wouldn’t care about my business. That’s how I know my family is more important.
Once you know that, you can discipline yourself so you can be successful.
So every time you find yourself doing the other thing, sleeping in or whatever, you have to remind yourself of what you really want in the long run. It takes discipline, and it’s totally worth it.
Okay. I can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this!
For me, discipline is freedom. What is it for you?