Creating Space for Change
If you want to make change in your life, it's important to create space for that change to occur. When we clear out the clutter, we have room to grow. Maybe you are wanting to establish new habits. Maybe you're trying to learn something new. Maybe you're just feeling restless. Make it easier on yourself and create space to change. If nothing else, call it your spring cleaning.
Are You Dissatisfied with Your Life?
You probably don't even have to ask yourself if you're satisfied or not; you already know. If you're not satisfied, what are you doing about it? Chances are, you want to change something, but you might not even know what to change. That's okay. You don't have to know. When you create space, change will naturally occur. It's rather magical. You grow.
Be Your Best Self
Of course, you could be fine with your ordinary life and have no desire to change. If you feel happy, you can be content leaving well enough alone. But if you have a dream, and it keeps coming back to you again + again, I think there is something better for you. I challenge you to be your best self. Meet yourself in that space of where you want to be, but don't force it.
It's one thing to say, 'I should be a better mom.' and then do things that you think a 'better mom' would do because of some belief that you have in your head. Kids are very intuitive, and they can tell if you are doing something because you genuinely want to, or if you are doing it because you feel like you should. Notice your energy vibration. Ask yourself why? when you find yourself saying should. Change the question. Try, 'How can I make it more fun?' or 'How can we connect more?' What can you do to want to fill your role as your best self? Creating space is a great way to grow.
Create Space in 3 Areas
To make lasting change I have found that there are three key areas to clean out. They are your physical space, your social space, and your mental space.
Your Physical Space
When you clear out your physical space you actually create room for your thoughts to flow. I know, it sounds a bit woo-woo, but it is true. Think of a time when you deep-cleaned something. Remember that satisfied feeling. It's relaxing in a way. You stand back and admire your work. There is a sense of calm around you. You pause there for a couple breaths, and then you turn and move on, and the feeling is lost. Imagine having that feeling regardless of what you were looking at in your home. Imagine feeling at peace + loving everything when you're cleaning.
Begin by cleaning your personal physical space: your closet. The best way to do this is to do the KonMari Method. (If you haven't read The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up, the Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo, get it + read it + do it.)
The first step in the book is your clothing, so do your closet. Remove everything. Yes, everything. And then go around your house and find every other article of clothing that you own that isn't in your closet. This is important. How much clothing do you think a person should have? How much do you want to have? Did you know that spending time to choose what to wear creates extra stress? Eliminate stress + only keep what you love so that you don't even have to think about what to wear. So, step one, gather your clothing.
When you have all your clothing together you're ready to start the KonMari Method. Starting with off-season clothing, pick one thing and ask, "Does this spark joy?" (step two). If it does, start a new pile of keeps, and if it doesn't, start a donate pile (step 3). To be more effective, go through your clothing in this order:
- Clothes that should be hung
- Clothes for specific events
To be successful at this it is important to take the time to do it all at once. She talks about this in her book. She mentions how we will always have daily tidying to do. That's when we put stuff away, back in their place. But, if you want to make space, you need to declutter. The way you declutter is by category, not by room. You gather everything in that category + you go through it. You make it an event. Make time to do this. I cannot stress this enough. Do not put anything away until you have gone through everything. She really has a perfect system. In her book she will take you through each category. They are:
- Sentimental items and photos
The basic steps are:
- Gather everything.
- Does it bring you joy?
- Keep or donate.
- Organize + put away.
Try to get through your entire house in a six month period. Shoot for one category a month and before you know it, you will have created space that you love. Your physical space will start to take it's personal shape, reflecting who you are innately.
Your Social Space
You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. We've all heard this and can understand it. What I find interesting is that they don't have to be people in real life. It could be the podcasts that you listen to, or the author that you read. Pay attention to who you interact with online as well as offline. Start hanging out with people who require you to level up. If you admire a particular quality in someone, start looking for it in yourself. Also, notice who is grumpy around you.
If you notice someone is bringing you down, start limiting your time with them. We can't make other people feel a certain way; they get to choose how they feel. That means you get to choose how you feel too. Hang out with 5 'people' you admire. People who make you feel like your best self. When you clear out your social space, your mind will open up.
Your Mental Space
When it comes to your mind, we actually want to do the opposite. Instead of clearing out, we want to add to it. I know, this seems a bit backwards. You clear out your physical space + you clear out your social space, and now you have all this room to think. And empty mind is empty. You want to stimulate your mind. You want to use your mind. Studies have shown that using your mind improves brain function. This is why old people do cross word puzzles. Clear out your physical + social spaces and give your mind room to grow + learn. Start a new hobby. Learn a new skill. Read a book about something that you have always wanted to be able to do, and then do it. Because now, you have the space.
Now It's Your Turn
By now you know that awareness is the first step. If you have been thinking about cleaning out, I'm here to tell you that the time is NOW. Spring is my favorite time of year to clean out. Make room for new things + new friends to come into your life.
- Clean out your closet.
- Pay attention to your social life.
- Learn a new skill.
- And have a fabulous life.