Schedule Comfort Time First
One of the biggest misconceptions people have about planning is that it's too confining. People like to have freedom. They don't want a rigid schedule. There is a key ingredient to planning that these people miss. It's planning your comfort time first, before everything else.
what is comfort time
So what is your comfort time? It's your personal time. Your play time. Do you have that on your calendar? This is so important.
Your comfort time is your personal time. This is the time you set aside to take care of you. This is not being selfish. This is being smart. You need to know what works for you and how much time it is going to take, and then you need to get that on your calendar.
Your comfort time also includes your play time. Yeah. Moms need play time. When do you have time to be creative? This doesn't mean you have to start doing projects all the time, but you need to understand what it is that fills you with joy, and then make sure you have some of that on your calendar.
Another part of your comfort time is your time for learning. I would keep this separate from your play time. Being creative keeps us inspired. Learning stimulates us for growth. I think you need a healthy dose of each.
And then you also need to include some down time. You need to schedule time where you do nothing. This is your chill time. You can sit and relax with a glass of lemonade and watch your kids play. Amazing things happen in down time. Resist the urge to pick up your book. Just chill.
why schedule comfort time first
These things might feel frivolous at first, and that is why they don't have priority on your calendar. But remember what Stephen Covey teaches us about those big rocks. They are the important things, not the urgent ones, and they need to be scheduled first.
When you prioritize yourself and you make these things important and you get them on your calendar, you will begin to change your life. You know what happens if you don't schedule them in. They don't get done. You don't take proper care of yourself. And where does that lead?
If you don't have your comfort time, overwhelm is right around the corner, waiting for you. Life starts to feel tough and you don't want to fulfill your roles anymore.
If you do your comfort time, you will keep showing up for your family as the best version of you because you are taking care of you. You will stay inspired because you are being creative. You will stay future focused because you are growing. It's a total win for everyone.
honor your schedule
Now, it's one thing to put it on your calendar and another to actually do it. But, getting it on your calendar is the first step. If you are scheduling everything in, you will be able to see that you do have time to do everything.
Pay attention to your habits. When the time comes for you to be creative and you don't feel like being creative, what excuse are you giving yourself? You need to honor your schedule. Do not change it.
When you say you are going to do something, do it, no matter how you are feeling. The hardest part is getting started. Once you get started, you will be so glad you did it.
You will be a better you
If you schedule in your comfort time and you honor your schedule, you will be a better version of you. You will be more self confident because your brain will start paying attention to you honoring your schedule, which is honoring your own word. That is the best way to grow in self confidence.
You become resilient. You tell yourself you are going to do something, maybe you don't feel like it, but you do it. It takes courage to grow, to be resilient, and resilience begets confidence.
You will also become better at time management because you will want to stick to your schedule. When you manage your time you can create more time, and time is a valuable thing.
So, schedule in your comfort time before you fill your calendar with everything else! You will be amazed at the difference in your life.