8 things that cost you time
This month in TBL School we are focusing on time management. I learned so much of my time management skills from Brooke Castillo. These are the top 8 time killers. If you constantly find yourself in a state of overwhelm and always running late, these are some great things to let go of.
Worry pretends to be necessary. I don’t even know who said that first, but it’s a true statement. Worry is one of those emotions that doesn’t serve you. There is no good reason to worry. You will never be so glad you spend time worrying over something. Think about something you worry about. Now think about how it would feel if you never had to worry about that again. That is available to you. Decide to let go of worry, and do something else instead.
Buffering. Yeah. That thing you are doing to avoid the other thing. You know you are buffering when you have a net consequence that is negative. When you avoid what needs to be done, you still have to do it. The only way to get things done is to do them. So why not stop buffering and just do the thing? You would have more time.
3. people pleasing
I know there are some people pleasers out there. (Don’t worry, you don’t have to raise your hand.) It’s time to stop pleasing others. Why? Because it doesn’t work. Everything we feel is because of what we are thinking, so you’re going to need to be able to control other people’s thoughts in order to make them always like what you’re doing. This pretty much never works, so stop wasting your time trying to please them and instead, show up as who you really are. Be willing to not have everyone like you. If you really love yourself it’s a lot easier.
Okay. When you make a decision, decide for good. There is no wrong decision, so it doesn’t matter what you pick anyway. You don’t do things because you think they will make you happier. What makes you happier is your thoughts. You want to get to the place where you do things because you want to. You have to believe that every option could be the best option, and therefore, it doesn’t matter which you choose.
Do not tell yourself you don’t know. You do know. If you think you don’t know, you are spinning in confusion. It’s like worry; it’s not necessary. What you do is you start doing. Just take a step and don’t worry if it’s the right one. Move forward. If it’s not working, change it. That’s how you grow. Staying confused is a waste of time.
6. judging yourself + others
Judging yourself and other people totally doesn’t need to happen. For one, I am not better than anyone else, and no one else is better than me. You have to really see everyone as equal. It doesn’t matter how much money you have or what skills you are good at or anything. We are all humans. We all have our own experience here on this earth. All the brain chatter that comes from judging others and yourself can stop. When you find yourself judging, just tell yourself you don’t need to judge, and let it go.
The past happened. Period. Now, the only place the past exists is in your mind. It’s your thought about what happened. So, whatever you think about the past is how you are going to identify with it. Pay attention to wether you are putting yourself as a victim or a villain. Do not regret that something happened. It was always supposed to be this way. If it wasn’t, something else would have happened. Decide to learn from your past and let it go so you can grow.
So many of you tell me that you’re so overwhelmed. All the time. I totally get it. I can relate because I find myself thinking this same thing. But the thing is, overwhelm is just like the rest of them. It’s caused by our thinking. So what if there’s a lot to do? You still get to decide how you want to feel about it. Maybe it’s reasonable. Maybe it’s supposed to be like this. What can you learn from it? How can you make it more enjoyable? What can you delegate? Because you don’t have to do anything, remember that. Let go of overwhelm and all that brain chatter and find something productive to think about.
When you can let go of these 8 things, worrying, buffering, people pleasing, indecision, confusion, judging, regretting, and being overwhelmed, you will actually start to create time. You will remove so much of the negative brain chatter and you will be able to use that brain juice for something better.
Ask yourself this: if you weren’t indulging in these, what would you be thinking about?
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