HOW TO BE CREATIVE AS A MOM
I always say that being creative solves so many problems. It's true. But, so many of you find it difficult to be creative. You don't have enough time, or it just doesn't work, with kids. I want you to know that these thoughts are totally normal.
Every time you decide to start doing something that you don't usually do, your brain is going to tell you to stop. That you shouldn't do it. That it's not going to work.
I know it doesn't sound very nice, but your brain is doing exactly what it is supposed to do. It likes to conserve energy. Getting up and being creative is going to take a lot of thought.
I mean, you have to think of something to do!
And then you have to do it.
It's way easier to sit on the couch and scroll Pinterest.
But, how does that feel at the end of the day?
What if you did get up and do something?
What if it was so fun, the rest of your day felt amazing?
Just imagine it for a minute.
How would you show up?
Do you think you would feel better at the end of the day?
Today, I want to help you to get to that place. I'm going to talk about what I think it means to 'be creative' and then I'm going to give you a few ideas to help you get started.
what is creative
When you look creative up in the dictionary you find 'relating to or involving the imagination or original ideas, especially in the production of an artistic work'.
Wait a minute.
How does this relate to a mom?
I'm not saying that you have to go start a business.
Let's break it down into simpler terms.
Being creative is having the power to create. To create requires imagination or original ideas, meaning it's YOUR work and you didn't copy someone else.
But, what is this 'work'?
It's different for each one of us.
I think your work lies in your desires. What is it that you want to do? What is it that you love doing, and you would do it whether you get paid or not? What is that thing you want to do that your brain immediately shuts down on because it'll never work, but you keep coming back to, again and again?
That is the work that needs your imagination.
That is what you need to do to be creative.
creativity as a mom
So, what does this look like as a mom?
Maybe you want to start a business, but every time you sit down, you can hardly get started before you have to get up again. So, you decide to not pursue your dreams.
You give in to your brain. You say, you're right, it's easier to do nothing.
But you keep thinking about that business, and how you wish you could do it. You put your wish upon a shelf labeled Someday When the Kids Are Gone.
The only thing is, when the kids are gone, do you want to be running your business or do you want to be starting from scratch?
Because guess what?
Your brain is going to tell you the same thing, whether you have kids at home or not.
This is hard. My eyes aren't as good as they used to be. My posture is too bad. My memory is poor.
Remember, your brain will try to do what it does best: conserve energy.
so what's the point
So, why ever do anything?
Because you are meant to grow and evolve.
Because it's not always going to be hard.
You have to get past the breaking point.
Here's how it works
- You decide to do something.
- It keeps not working out.
- You keep doing it.
- It starts to work out.
- You keep doing it.
- It starts to become a habit.
- You keep doing it.
- It becomes part of your routine.
When it's not working, you have to commit to making it work. For some, just knowing that their brain is the thing shutting them down, is enough to get them to routine.
It takes commitment and courage, again and again.
As soon as it starts to become a habit, your brain starts to click.
Oh, yeah. We did this before. And it was so fun.
And then your brain will start working for you.
That, my friends, is where the magic happens.
1. do something
If you are wanting to spark your imagination, you have to start doing. It doesn't matter what. Get up and walk around your living room a few times. Do some jumping jacks. Start cleaning.
I tell you what, as soon as I start cleaning I think of a million fun things that I want to do. Clearing out always motivates me.
AS A MOM: Try to move around more than you sit around. Pick one room (or just a drawer), and start cleaning it. Listen to your mind as it wanders. Pay attention to what comes up.
2. The 5 second question
Try to answer this question in 5 seconds: If you could do anything right now, and you knew it would work out, what would you do?
Then, go do it. Be spontaneous.
AS A MOM: Call someone up and go meet for coffee, or get a coffee and meet at an indoor park. The worst that can happen is that they say no, and you are back where you started.
3. find what brings you joy
Think about the things that you enjoyed as a child. Do those things still bring you joy? Are those things in your life right now? What can you do to have more fun?
AS A MOM: Talk to your kids about the things that you did when you were their age. This will strengthen your relationships and inspire you.
4. go outside
Nature has so much to teach us. Sometimes life is tough. Sometimes, it's supposed to be tough.
Think about how would you feel if you were a tree, and you lost all your leaves, and you had to stand out in the bitter cold bare naked for months?
Are you going to freak out and know that you will die?
Or, are you going to know that you're going through a season of life. Spring will come again, and you will flourish.
I think spending time outside somehow ingrains life lessons into us. Besides, nature always leaves me feeling revived, energetic, and inspired.
AS A MOM: Bundle up and go on a winter walk with your kids. Bring a paper bag and fill it with treasures. At the end of the day, you don't have to keep the treasures. Just have fun discovering them.
give yourself permission
You have to give yourself permission to be creative. If you are already spending time being creative, and you feel guilty about spending your time on that thing, you need to explore that.
I don't think you should ever ignore your feelings. They show up for a reason.
Maybe it's because you aren't showing up as a mom as good as you know you can.
If you want to be creative, you have to honor your values and manage your time. Because then, when you sit down to knit (or whatever), your time is your own, and you can knit with a satisfied feeling of fulfillment.
Show up as a mom first.
Give yourself permission to be creative.
Use your imagination.
You are creative.
Okay friends! Comment below on your favorite creative activity!