10 Reasons Why You Still Have Anxiety
If you are like me, when I was suffering with anxiety, I didn't even want to talk about it because talking about it made me anxious. But if you don't talk about it, how can you overcome it? Anxiety is something I struggled with for so long.
My biggest trigger was sickness. I was terrified of being sick, of having my kids be sick. I could handle any fever or croup, but no vomit. My therapist called it emetophobia; the fear of throwing up. It was very real to me.
I have since learned how to manage my emotions and now that I am in control of my emotions, I want to share with you some tips to help you be more in control.
Here you will find 10 reasons you still have anxiety and how to combat each one.
1| you are living as an emotional child
If you are living as an emotional child, you are giving all your power away to outside things. You are letting the weather, the season, the bank account, the car, the job, any of those things outside of you, determine how you feel. It's your responsibility to feel good from the inside. It doesn't matter what the weather is or what sickness is going around. You still get to decide how you want to feel.
2| you are resisting it
So much of the time we are afraid of feeling our emotions so we resist them. We clean like mad. We eat. We go online. We do anything but feel what makes us uncomfortable. When you can sit with your emotions and allow them, you will notice the emotion is easier than the resisting of the emotion.
3| you are reacting to it
Another thing similar to resisting is reacting. Maybe you're anxious about something that is going around and so you clean the house like mad with hopes that nobody gets sick. Pay attention to what actions you take when you are feeling anxious. Why are you choosing to react to your emotion instead of feeling it?
4| you have low self-confidence
If you really believed you could feel any emotion and you would be okay, anxiety wouldn't be such a big deal. You would sit and feel it and feel better about yourself. You are strong. You can feel any emotion. Be willing to be uncomfortable to grow into yourself.
5| you don't recognize your emotions
Maybe you don't even recognize that you have anxiety. Maybe you think 'this' is just something you do when 'that' happens. But pay attention if you don't feel good in your gut. Pay attention to those actions you take when you are trying to avoid something.
6| you are running old belief systems
It could be that you are running an old belief system. This was a big part of my anxiety. I thought, 'It runs in the family.' When you think it's just the way it is, that you don't have any control, take a look at your belief systems and challenge them.
7| you are not taking care of yourself
When you don't take care of yourself, you don't feel like taking care of anyone else. When you're in that place and anxiety comes along, you don't know what to do. It is so important to take care of yourself. This will allow you space to think and to understand your emotions from a healthy place.
8| you don't know how to manage your mind
If you don't know how to manage your mind, you don't know why you are experiencing anxiety in the first place. You have to do a thought download to empty out your brain and then you have to understand what thought is causing you to feel your anxiety. Why are you choosing to think that thought? What do you want to feel instead?
9| you don't know how to allow anxiety
When you sit and allow an emotion, you are not resisting or reacting to it. You are just sitting there. Notice the vibration in your body. What does it feel like in your head? In your mouth? Your chest? Go all the way down your body. This will allow you to experience the emotion from a place of control.
10| you think you'll never stop feeling it
The biggest reason we resist or avoid or react to anxiety is because we are afraid we will never stop feeling it. But this is not true. When you sit and allow your emotion, it will pass through you and you will be in control sooner than you think.
are you ready to feel your anxiety?
If you never allow yourself to feel your anxiety, it's always going to come up and be a problem for you. I think we are given our challenges because they are specific things we need to overcome to be the person we are meant to be. I am so much stronger than I was even 5 years ago. If you want some help, I can be with you every step of the way. Join me in my program so you can start living on purpose, too.